Romantic Couple Development Questions

A list of questions to ask yourself about the couple/pairing/OTP you're writing about. Remember - if it's true love, you should be able to answer most of these. If you can't, it's probably infatuation.

  • What sorts of non-lovemaking activities and such did your characters bond over?
  • What sorts of non-lovemaking activities do they do together?
  • What kinds of things do they talk about when they're together?
  • What dreams and goals do they share?
  • What dreams and goals do they have that they do not share?
  • How many children does each partner want? Have they discussed this? If not, why?
  • What other plans do they have for the future? Which ones have they discussed? Why and/or why not?
  • What are the most difficult situations they have faced together so far? How did they overcome them?
  • What are some of their best memories together so far that have nothing to do with sex or the development of the relationship?
  • What things do they do that get on each others' nerves?
  • What little personal quirks and unusual tastes do each have that the other is aware of? How did they learn about them?
  • What views do your characters disagree on? How do they reconcile their differences in opinions?
  • What sorts of things did they or do they get into arguments or fights over?
  • How do they reconcile after arguments or fights?
  • How do they each react when the other is in pain or is troubled? What do they do to help the other?
  • What is the biggest potential threat to their relationship? What is the most likely threat?
  • What would each partner be willing to change about xirself for the other? What wouldn't they be willing to change for each other?

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Basic Tips To Write Healthy Relationships
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What Romantic Chemistry Looks Like
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